Holidays (and especially Thanksgiving) represent a special opportunity/challenge if you have family members who disagree.

Our relationships have been torn apart by the political and cultural divide that we’ve been experiencing in the United States. If each of our families are going to have a peaceful Thanksgiving, we need to start to work on mending those fractured relationships. 

Rituals like Thanksgiving define our lives. It’s a time to connect with those we love (or used to love and at least feel we ought to love). It grounds us and gives us life. It’s a time to get out a needle and thread to mend a fractured relationship. 

But our difficulties in talking to each other mean that we often don’t take advantage of this opportunity. Among those who have to cross a political divide, we have cut those dinners short.  We spend less time together than those who don’t because we don’t have the skills to mend those tears and to bring peace into our relationships and our hearts.

I will be writing more ideas in the Quollective, I have lots of ideas of what you can say, but here is a specially holiday focused suggestion.

Second: If you have any input, choose a grace (blessing) that is focused on the themes of people coming together despite differences and working together to build the future. Those are two of the tools that can be very useful.

Here’s a sample grace. Feel free to adapt it and make it your own.

Dear God,
Thank you for bringing us together on this day in which we commemorate the Pilgrims and the Native Americans crossing their divides and coming together to feed each other. We celebrate their courage and willingness. And we celebrate the hard work that Americans of all types have come together to build this country. Despite all the changes to this country over the centuries, we are still Americans who work to make our country and our lives better. Help us to identify ways that we can help to move this country forward.

Consider this investment in a long-term relationship. Here’s another Thanksgiving post for another option.

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